[18 Apr 12] I kissed a girl and I liked it

[NobodySpecial]

If a girl kisses another girl to attract a guy who is watching, who the fuck are you to criticize what turns her on?

I think you just answered the question for a lot of folks, especially if (for example) the criticizer was a gay man who'd been repeatedly beaten by family members and ejected from the family at a young age. Sexuality is personal, but not everyone gets to go around breaking the boxes with complete immunity.

So the solution to being attacked for your own sexuality is to attack others for theirs?

Don't get me wrong I'm not comparing homophobic violence to snark on message boards, but if someone can say honestly "I like kissing girls because it turns me on to know that guys think I'm hot when I do it" then why hate? It's one thing to work against prejudice, but I see no need to criticize people who are just doing their own thing.

Oh and to clarify when I kissed my friends it was because I had fun doing it, the one time there was a guy there it was actually really fucking awkward. But I don't have a problem with the idea of people doing what they want sexually, with consenting partners, etc.

Well, first place, I'm a straight male, so my example wasn't about me. It WAS, however, something that has happened more than once to gay men I know.

Second, I'll go with this - if the other girl is into it for the same reason, then fine. It's duplicitous in a way that PROBABLY isn't needed to attract male attention, but at least you're both being honest that it's not about the girl.

[thebitterfig]

Pardon the thread necromancy, but this just had to be linked.

Jon Fishman (in the donut pattern muumuu he ALWAYS wears) sings the titular song.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ul5m6up1gbY

Forgive me if you can.

[LadyObvious23]

The only issue I really had with that song was that it was reinforcing the "bisexuals sleep with everyone" stereotype... Plus the part where she's cheating on her boyfriend. (She hopes he doesn't mind it, which means the poor guy's in the dark.)

I thought it was about a girl who was a self hating lesbian? :/ Cuz I think I read that's what the song was sort of about.

[Otaking]

My sexuality is something personal and I can take it as lightly as I want.

Thread should have ended here TBH.

I'll add a caveat gleaned from my ex-wife who had been hurt by fake bi chicks in the past.

Your sexuality is personal, but you are aiming it at others sometimes, who are people and not props. (Some people would like to be props, but that's quite another thread.)

As long as you're not misleading anyone that has any kind of actual investment into you, I think you've got the ethical high ground.

[Otaking]

Ooo super necro...

At least I'm in good company.