pepejose wrote:more like a case of her being a b***h and having me as some sort of emotional crutch/backup boyfriend.
Sorry for the personal rant :/
Oh, phew, I'm glad you
said something, because I didn't wa-- *ahem*
And dude, don't be sorry. Have you seen this forum? We have an entire thread dedicated to bad days.
It sounds like she's... not really sure where she falls on the sexual orientation spectrum, but that she's grabbing for a label without really taking the time to think about whether it suits her. And let's be fair to her, sexual orientation labels are complicated and not accurate for everyone. If she's physically attracted to women without needing an emotional attachment, that tells me she's gay as far as the ladies go. If she needs an emotional attachment to be attracted to a man, it sounds like she's demisexual when it comes to the gents. Is there a name for that combination? I don't know. "Bisexual" is probably the closest she'll get. She could also consider herself a "lesbian with exceptions."
In the end, how she defines herself and whether she defines herself at all is up to her. She sounds like she's confused and trying to find the right word, and that's just something that's going to take time and research on her part.
As for your part in this, it sounds like she's got way too much to figure out right now for you to pursue any kind of real relationship with her. Let her cross her t's and dot her i's on her own. She's a big girl.
And again, don't worry about sounding whiny to us. I made a whole post dedicated to how I had to work on Saturday last week.